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Starting a family is not easy for everyone . When we got married, my husband was starting off in his career. On the other hand, I had a permanent full time job, however, when I was going to get married a woman full of wisdom advised me that as you’re getting married, do what your husband can afford. She said, the man is the provider. And as life goes on, things can change in the life of a woman when she’s married as she gets blessed with children. She might have to leave a job. Sometimes pregnancies can be challenging and the wife might need to adjust. I followed that advice. At the time my husband could afford a house that was in a public housing area. It was a very cheap house. It was not pleasant to live in. It was a one bedroom with a small lounge, small bathroom, and small kitchen. It was not pleasant at all. Before marriage, I had been living in a three bedroom house with two big lounges, big kitchen. I was been born in a family where my parents were business people and doing very well very. This was not easy but I needed to learn to humble myself and do what my husband could afford at that time.Whilst we were in that situation, I had to accept what was current but believe that God could do miracles and that He would change our lives. We sat down and made our plans for the future. We wrote down what we wanted and believed in God.ln that year we were working and saving money. After about six months of living in that property, we were evicted because my husband’s income had become higher than what was allowed in that kind of property. And we started living in another house but in the same neighborhood it was cheap as well.I remember is when it was the rainy season, the whole neighborhood had some kind of smell and the house would feel damp and wet. When it was cold it become very cold when it was hot, it would become very hot. It was just an old building. Unfortunately , we lost our first pregnancy while living in that home and it changed a lot of things in my health.I went back to work after about three months, which meant that we were living on one income. Like what that wise woman had said.God is faithful, we got pregnant with another child but unfortunately we lost that pregnancy. It was an ectopic pregnancy. We tried again and this time a lot of things changed, l reduced my working hours,we had more bills because I had to take care of myself better so again we were living on one income. After that, we were blessed with a baby boy. I stayed home for a year totake care of the baby instead of putting him straight into daycare. So I didn’t work until a certain time.I was running a business but it was still growing. I am sharing all this to emphasize the changes that happened to me and happens a lot earlier in marriage.All these changes affected our income significantly.We only had to depend on one main source of stable income.It even became worse with the next pregnancy. I got very sick, l had blood clots in the lungs and other health issues going on with that pregnancy. Every time we were having a child, we had to be extra careful and I had to reduce any forms of stress so that we could go through the pregnancy easier. I’m talking about all these to show someone that truly and indeed sometimes life can change. Sometimes nothing changes and we praise God for those who have experienced no change. But for those who might be going through change in this platform, my encouragement is for you to live within your means to accept what is around you. Work with it so that it can improve your well being and you can improve your life. You can achieve big things as if you were all working all the time. In the next article, I’ll continue about the changes that we had to make for us to fit within the income that we were getting. With all these changes mentioned we still managed to build our first house within our first 5 years of marriage by God’s grace. Indeed miracles can happen when you position yourself for them.

“He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.”
‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3‬:‭11‬ ‭NIV